One of the most ironic parts of healing is that as we begin to feel better, we often find ourselves grappling with sadness for what we missed out on, the people who let us down, and what our younger selves truly deserved. Healing involves grieving, and there’s no way around it. You don’t always suffer in life because you are bad; sometimes, it’s simply because you didn’t know when to stop being so good to everyone.
Tears can often be the only way to express our pain, but therein lies the beauty of healing: being in that vulnerable space where our emotions take form and ultimately release. You’ll find that your pain is not your enemy but your guide, showing you where to set boundaries. We don’t always have to be strong; sometimes, our true strength is expressed by being vulnerable. There are days when we cannot push harder, when self-doubt looms large, and when fear is impossible to shake off.
Some days, we don’t want to get out of our pajamas, and sometimes we cry in front of others, exposing our tiredness, irritability, or anger—those days are okay. They are just fine. Part of taking care of ourselves means giving ourselves permission to fall apart when needed. We do not have to be perpetual towers of strength; we have already proven our resilience.
Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable when necessary. It’s okay to be human and not to feel guilty for needing to "fall apart." Embracing these moments is a vital part of our growth and wellness journey.